I am tired, and weary. Today, I felt the effects of not having a man in my life. It was one of those days. I ended up breaking down and crying to my friend about how God has not put a man in my life yet. I got a flat tire today. It was bad enough, but on top of it I didn't have a jack or a lug wrench (on a positive note- had a spare ). So I'm stuck, with my kid, at night in the rain; with a flat tire, no jack or lug wrench. Of couse I had to start putting my thinking skills into high gear. I got my sister to take my daughter home, and the most unlikely coworker (he has this Shrek-ogre-dont bother- me personality) came and helped me obtain a lug wrench and jack. Two hours later, I made it home. I missed the gym ( and the opportunity to see my eye candy "Catch") and ended up going over on my calories ( it was only 51 over) because I stopped by the Burger King drive through for dinner (fast-food therapy).
Nothing seemed to be going in my favor, and all I can think is if I had a man in my life-this might be easier. On the other hand I am often reminded, I should not settle for "a man"; but the right man for me who will love and treat me the way I should be treated. Sofia Vergara, the Columbian TV producer and actress comes to mind. Vergara has recently become engaged- to heart throb Joe Manganiello. I read in a magazine, it was the way he treats her that really hit home for her. Many of my friends are engaged or already married. I can see from the outside things are rocky in some of these relationships- if I can see this from the outside, I can only image the full extent of what is actually happening in these relationships.
I just get lonely which makes my journey seem more like a struggle. I have had time to think about everything- so I'm OK with being alone ( it can be overwhelming at times). One of my new years resolutions was to trust in my Savior Jesus Christ more. This is something I struggle with also; allowing God to work in my life and trust in His pure and perfect will for my life.
The last time I worked out guess who ended up on the machine right next to me? None other than Catch. Im sure he has no clue I even go to the gym, but he gives me something to look forward to at the gym. It was nice.
I seem to be thinking about my ex more lately. You see a friend of mine told me he couldn't take care of me the way I should be. I had never heard a guy say this before; so I replied with how "safe" of an excuse I felt this statement was (I never said I was good at realtionships). When Thor said this to me the question popped into my mind as to if there was ever a guy I was with that could. This is where my ex came to mind. He was am amazing guy, humanitarian, who really took care about of me. We are not on good terms. He is the one I left in Miami, but I really feel we should be able to be friends. This happened years ago; and I thought we should be able to be in a better place. What Thor said did make me think, what I'm looking for in a relationship. I want a man that can ( man that is able to take care of me, but i work hard to take care of myself) take care of me, that has ambitions and goals.
All summed up, this helps me to realize I want to wait, I need to wait on Gods time. I will trust in my Savior for the right time for that special guy in life.
"To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.". -Federico GarcĂa Lorca,Blood Wedding and YermaYermaYermaYerma
"Unrequited love is the infinite curse of the lonely heart. " - Christina Westover
Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another: " Why can't you see who I truly am?". - Shannon L. Adler
This video inspires me to go to the gym and "throw some weight around":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aN7lt0CYwHg